One-Two-Three

Marriage is a dance for two.  You can look like Ginger Rogers and Fred Astaire.  You can look like you're playing Whack-a-Mole.  As long as each partner dances their part, it works.  You can't have both dancers trying to lead at the same time.  One of you can't become dead weight and the other have to drag you around.  You can't sit on the sidelines and say you're part of the dance.  You have to get in there and dance with your partner in any way that works.  Face it, marriage is like dancing:  it takes both partners working at it for it to work.  You don't have to be alike.  You don't have to share every interest.  You can be a morning person and your partner can be a night owl.  You can be a sun worshipper and your partner a snowboarder.  It doesn't matter so long as you both work at making it work.  Otherwise, you and your dysfunction see me.  Here in the Trenches.