The Dog and the Coyote

I came home from work early the other day and decided to take my puppy for a long walk.  As we walked around our local lake, we came across an animal ahead of us who looked like a dog.  There was no owner, and as I looked more carefully, I recognized the coyote who lives in the woods near our home.  The coyote had been coming toward us, but when he saw us, he stopped and turned the other way.  He walked about 20 yards up the path and then stopped again, turned and looked at us.  We, of course, stopped as well.  Then he turned and walked another 20 yards up the path, and repeated his behavior.  Puppy and I decided that we would be brave another day, and turned around and walked the other way.  Had we continued on our chosen path, we didn't know what the coyote would do.  He could have been sizing us up as a threat, or looking at my pup for some lunch.  We decided not to find out because we had the option to turn around and go another way and the time to  take it.  We still had a lovely walk, just not the one we thought we would have.

Many times here in the Trenches, clients walk along the path to separation or divorce and come across obstacles.  Some obstacles are easily identified as harmless or harmful.  Others are not. Often there is another path that avoids the obstacle.  The problem when you're in the Trenches is that emotions often rule.  Some people are so anxious to get out of the Trenches that they don't realize that they have time for a different path. Some people just can't see the other path because of anger, fear or anxiety.  Others don't want to take the other path because they don't want to be inconvenienced or because they are unable to see the other path is acceptable.  Some people take the other path.  Whichever path a client takes will ultimately get them to the end and out of the Trenches, but the result and the feeling about that result may be entirely different depending on the path taken.  Remember there's almost always another path; the question is whether you want to take it.  Here in the Trenches.