Resolutions

It's a new year.  Did you make any resolutions?  Come on, tell the truth - you know you did.  The problem with most resolutions is that they're big.  "I'm going to stop smoking."  "I'm going to lose 50 pounds."  "I'm going to leave my spouse and live happily ever after."  Big resolutions are specific, but they're overwhelming.  They're kind of like getting a request for hundreds of different types of documents, spanning 30 years.  That's specific, but again, overwhelming.  Wouldn't it be better to resolve to smoke 1 less cigarette a day, lose one pound a week?  Wouldn't it be better to take just one small measurable step to make your life better?  Even if the ultimate goal is to leave your marriage, isn't it better to say that you will learn all about your family finances, or pick your child up one day a week from school and spend time doing something they like?  Both of those things help if you're planning to divorce.   What if you just thanked your spouse for something they did?  So what if it wasn't something you wanted them to do.  So what if they didn't do it the way you would have done it.  It got done and they did it.  Thank them. Maybe if you thank them enough times, they'll start thanking you.  Maybe that will help you find something that was missing in your life, and it will feel a bit better and you won't want to divorce.  I could do with a little less business.  We all could - Here in the Trenches.