One of the by-products of the end of a marriage is the intense loneliness experienced by one or both of the partners. The one person with whom you share an intimate relationship, who knows you best, and who accepted you the way you are, no longer wants to occupy that space in your life. Friends of you as a couple begin to distance themselves. Your friends either don't know how to help you or are tired of listening to your constant litany of fear and anxiety. You feel isolated, caught between the world of couples and single people; you are both and neither. You are not free to date, to share intimate moments with someone other than your spouse, but your spouse doesn't want to share them with you either. Depression is common; loneliness its root. As luck would have it, my favorite blogger, Gretchen Rubin, posted today on how to battle loneliness. Read it, follow its advice, and try to enjoy life again. This all will pass and you will feel better. You will make friends, develop new interests, and come alive. It will happen - you just have to give it some help.
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