Tiger Woods and his former wife, Elin Nordegren, provide those of us in the Trenches with many teaching opportunities. The latest of those is Ms. Nordegren’s new relationship. The internet is active with postings concerning the man in Ms. Nordegren’s life, Jamie Dingman. It seems he has quite a reputation as a womanizer. There have already been allegations that he is cheating on Ms. Nordegren. Yet, she continues to date him. We here in the Trenches are not surprised that Ms. Nordegren’s new love sounds remarkably like her ex-husband. We have lots of clients who married or had children with someone obviously ill-suited to them. Here in the Trenches, we try to help clients not only extricate themselves from the relationship, but also move on with their lives in a healthy manner. One of the ways we do this is to encourage the client to enter into counseling with a qualified therapist so they can learn why they are attracted to people who are not suited to them so they can avoid the same mistakes in the future. Unfortunately, it’s human nature to believe that there is no pattern to relationships, that things will be different simply by getting out of the bad relationship in which they find themselves. It’s human nature not to want to do the hard work, but take the easy road, and besides, it’s simply unromantic to turn an analytical eye to love. So, most clients don’t get into therapy, even though they should. Of course, they continue to make the same mistakes in love over and over again, which is bad for them but good for business here in the Trenches.
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