Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Wouldn't it be great

....if we could see ourselves as others see us?  Probably not, because then we would have to take responsibility for who we are and what we do. (See prior posts on this blog).  Round one of depositions was yesterday in my 3.5 year old case.  It was my deposition of the husband.  I joked to the court reporter after that it would be really easy to transcribe this deposition because you could list all of my questions in one column and in the next, simply put "I don't recall" opposite each question.  After 25 years of marriage and 5 children, he can think of nothing good to say about his wife or the marriage.  He couldn't even recall why he married her, plus the breakup of the marriage is all her fault (of course).  The truly sad part of this is that he will act exactly the same way in court.

    For all those people divorcing, is there really nothing positive you can remember about life with your spouse?  Was there really never a time where you thought life was good with them?  If the answer to these questions is "yes," then think about what that means.  It means you wasted a good portion of your life (in this case, half of it), being completely miserable.  Unless you have some mental disorder that makes you masochistic, no one is going to believe that you were so miserable for so long and did nothing about it.  It is simply not a credible position and you look like a fool, and coincidentally kill your case.   If you really do agree with the first two sentences of this paragraph, then I hope you think again, and be kinder to your memories and your current or former spouse. 

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